If a woman wants to see the nature of a man, tell him “No.

Bev Jo (via marjchaos)

And then you’ll see that it’s really men who are the irrational and hyper-emotional ones (p.s., anger is an emotion and males with an entitlement complex excel at expressing it, especially towards women and girls who don’t or refuse to succumb to his bullshit).

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It’s easy to be considered a misandrist when men are socialized to feel entitled to women and our time. So, if you ignore them, you’re a misandrist. If you insist they leave you alone, you’re a misandrist. If you focus on building healthy female-centered relationships over relationships with men, you’re a misandrist. Misandry is basically, prioritizing your agency, autonomy and fellow women, over men in a society that teaches you that being feminine relies on giving into men’s feelings of entitlement.

(via angrywomanistcritic)

annnnnnd BOOM

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alaamuk:

White Feminism Needs to Die.

Because I am fed up with white feminists trying to “save” Muslim women. Just quit. 

A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On

Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.

Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.

If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?

(via leonmcgann)

(Source: notaprincessdestinedtobeawitch)

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pastelmorgue:

eradicategirlhate:

you ever thought that maybe the reason girls say they’re fine when they’re not, or they’re not mad when they are, is because the second they show any semblance of emotion they’re written off as hysterical bitches that are probably on their period?

THE FUCKING DA VINCI CODE HAS BEEN CRACKED

(Source: princesslilitu)

Violent or discriminatory sexism, called hostile sexism, is used by men in patriarchal societies to police women’s behavior. When women defy gender roles by acting in a way that is perceived as too “masculine,” men use violence to punish them and remind them of their feminine role. Benevolent sexism is simply the reverse of this; it isn’t the punishment for acting too masculine, it’s the reward for acting appropriately feminine.[3] These two types of sexism often exist together and men (or societies) that use one will generally use the other.

Research Blog: “I’ll get that for you”: Chivalry is alive and holding your boxes | SPARK Movement (via sociolab) —

3 percent of the decision-making in media comes from women. That means 97 percent of how women are portrayed is decided on by men.

Independent Lens, PBS
“Wonder Women! The Untold Story of American Superheroines” (via ihopeyoucontinue4ever)

It also means that 97 percent of how men are portrayed in media are decided on by men. Something to remind MRAs and their ilk of when they complain about the stereotype of men as inept slobs, bad fathers, etc in media and advertising.

Men have the power. So when we men are shat on by the powers that be you don’t get to try and blame women for that.

(via karethdreams)

But please, tell me again how oppressive the feminazi-driven matriarchy is. —

hollylderr:

Representation Visualization: Time to Wash Those Men Right out of our Hair

In every single demographic—country, city, suburban, various economic classes, ethnic backgrounds—I’d go into a class and talk about the book. And usually by the end, a junior boy would say, ‘I love the book, but I really didn’t get why she was so upset.’ I heard that so many times. The first couple dozen times I sort of freaked, and then I got down from my judgmental podium and started to ask questions. It became clear that teen boys don’t understand what rape is.

The Atlantic has profiled the author of Speak. (via aauw) —

(Source: lesleypowers)

For the last three decades many Americans have puzzled over a system that gives an R to a movie in which a women is carved up by a chainsaw and an NC-17 to one that shows a woman sexually pleasured. From such ratings one might conclude that sexual violence against women is OK for American teenagers to see, but that they must be 18 to see consensual sex. What message does this send to the kids the MPAA presumably means to protect?

Carrie Rickey

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THANK YOU

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Good policy.

(Source: sundasill)

pizzavanguard:

alexandraerin:

trishatosh:

dearcispeople:

Dear Cis People:

You are not, for any reason, under any circumstances, by any means, allowed to have an opinion on my identity. It does not work that way. Get over yourselves, you are not the gender police. Gender is not a simple 2-position switch, I’m allowed to mix and match. Get over that, too.

I really just don’t like all these anti-cis sentiments out there. It is absolutely stupid to lump all non-trans identifying people into one group and assume that they’re all ignorant jerks. It creates a schism which in turn delineates the world into us and them.

There is no us or them. We’re all people.

When you read a sign that says “ATTENTION LIBRARY PATRONS, THERE IS NO EATING OR DRINKING IN THE LIBRARY”, do you go up to the circulation desk to complain that it’s not fair to lump all library patrons together and you’re not like those other library patrons who would need to be told and they’re creating a needless schism between library patrons and everyone else?

No. Of course not. You understand that, as a library patron, the instructions apply to you whether you need to be told or not, but the fact that the instructions are provided don’t imply anything about you personally. And they’re addressed to library patrons because that’s who they’re aimed at. People in the sandwich shop across the street don’t need to be told there’s no eating in the library, at least not until they come over and patronize it.

This letter is addressed to cis people because that’s who it applies to. It is lumping all cis people together, but only as a category that should not be going around opining about trans* identities.

If you’re cis, there are exactly two possibilities here: either you agree that it’s not your place to do that, in which case I don’t understand why your response to this would be anything other than nodding in agreement, or you disagree, which… okay, like, that’s just your opinion or whatever, but yeah, then you’ve got no right to complain about an open letter addressed to a generalized you on the subject.

The “schism” is created by the entitlement of the privileged to think of themselves as the normal unmarked state, free from criticism and in no need of advice. And that entitlement will rear its head any time it isn’t 100% catered to, no matter how gently or politely the message (and the one above isn’t even that rude, just direct)… better to confront it and point it out when it arises than tiptoe around it and hope it goes away.

<3

smashmorphed:

Not your babe

Yesterday I was walking my dog and some asshole asked if he could “have me”. He was a nice-looking guy about my own age and if he’d approached me respectfully and chatted with me, maybe said hi to the dog, I might have stopped to flirt. But instead he decided to harass me. And I don’t stand for that shit. #hollaback -KG

whoneedsfeminism:

… because I’m bisexual, my brother is autistic, my friend is transgender, my PE teacher discriminates muslims, my mum is unhappy, my dad dislikes my sexual orientation, my grandmother was harassed by my grandfather, my best friend feels he must compete against other guys, my doctor asked me if I had “learned from my mistakes” when I told him about the sexual abuse I had experienced.

In the end, we all need equality.

SOCIETY NEEDS FEMINISM